Tasteful Facebook announcements

A few years ago, an ex-co-worker turned friend announced her pregnancy on facebook.

She didn't announce it like this one did, her's was very tasteful. In fact, she didn't quite announce it, she just posted a picture of her 9-month-pregnant self on vacation with her husband.

Her Facebook buddies, including myself, had no clue she was pregnant and she got more comments on her huge baby bump rather than the scenic vacation picture.

I sent her a message telling her how happy I was for them. Since I was completely ignorant to the TTC world and the insensitive Facebook announcements at that time, I asked her why she didn't announce her pregnancy sooner.

She replied by telling me that although she doesn't know anybody struggling with infertility, she assumed that some people simply don't share their struggles and she didn't want to hurt anyone with her pregnancy announcement. She waited until the last minute to simply post a picture with no comment about her pregnancy.

At the time, I didn't understand the depth of her thoughtfulness especially since she did it without even knowing anyone's IF struggle.

Today she posted a picture of herself , 9 months pregnant with her second baby. She didn't mention anything about her pregnancy, she simply mentioned how much she loved her husband and daughter (who were in the picture with her).

I loved it.

For the first time since I started TTC, I was happy to see that kind of Facebook announcement and understood the thoughtfulness behind it.

Thanks Facebook!

A Facebook friend of mine (because it's important to indicate that this is not a real life friend, just a Facebook friend), just got married.

She changed her relationship status to 'married' and within minutes stated that :


"My awesome husband (love calling him that) and I are proud to announce that we're expecting a beautiful little baby. We're 2 months pregnant!!!!"

My first bitter thought - 'think you have enough exclamation marks?'

In all honesty, I'm happy for the couple. I'm not at the point where seeing pregnant women makes me feel sad or hearing a couple's good news makes me feel envious.

However, this Facebook announcement irked me. The fact that it didn't make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside could be because of the following:

1. I really don't care much for this girl. I connected with her because I felt bad declining her friend request.
2. How blissfully ignorant to the risks are you to announce to all 506 friends that you're pregnant at only 8 weeks?
3. I remember her saying time and time again that she never wanted to have kids.

I have a Facebook account, but I'm not one of those people who're posting every single picture taken or every single morsel of food I ate that day. I just don't think people need to know everything and truthfully, I don't think they care.

Maybe because I'm going through this TTC process, I'm starting to notice how often my 'friends' post their pregnancy announcements.

The irony is not lost on me - she never wanted kids and she's lucky enough to fearlessly announce her pregnancy before her second trimester.

Looks like I have a first class ticket on the plane to bitter-land.